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It’s ironic that dating can be a lonely experience. For anyone who has to balance a demanding career, a busy social life, and any number of other passions, finding someone else on your level can be a thankless solo journey leading you to reenter your relationship with Netflix.
Connecting with the stories of others is a great way to motivate yourself to keep looking, and dating podcasts can provide a wealth of information and inspiration.
With true love stories, real talk about intimacy, or advice from the LGBTQ community, here are 14 dating podcasts that will hopefully keep you from a series of mind-numbing first date conversations and deliver you the One you seek.
The Modern Love podcast, a spinoff of the Modern Love column in The New York Times, is a favorite among the New York elite. Following a unique format, the podcast invites actors, authors, and influencers in the arts to read essays and stories submitted by everyday users.
In every episode of Dear Sugar, best-selling author Cheryl Strayed and her co-host, Steve Almond, read and answer letters from people from all walks of life. They’re not afraid to tackle difficult issues, answering questions on loneliness, dating as a single parent, overcoming jealousy and finding your sense of worth.
While Dear Sugar ended in 2018, the advice is timeless and universal. Since there’s no sequential order, you can browse the episodes and find a topic that speaks to you.
If you get easily embarrassed talking about sex and intimacy, Savage Lovecast will desensitize you — and quickly. Answering a handful of calls on each episode, Dan Savage is ready to cover any topic, including many NSFW.
Whether it’s having a sex addiction, reconciling with a partner after cheating or navigating LGBTQ dating, this podcast opens up real conversations and shares endless nuggets of wisdom on love and modern relationships.
Ready for a straightforward and hilarious conversation about modern dating? This Is Why You’re Single is hosted by comedy writers Laura Lane and Angela Spera, who began collaborating on sketch comedy after meeting at an improv theater.
The podcast confronts the hard truths about dating in the digital age, using real-world dating stories as launchpads for practical conversations. Laura and Spera’s advice is real, practical and relatable. There’s also an eponymous book that tackles many of the same topics.
Nancy is one of today’s leading podcasts documenting the modern queer experience. Tackling topics like coming out, sex toys, growing up trans, and finding love by speaking up, Nancy somehow manages to be sad, funny and uplifting – and all at the same time!
We also like Nancy for its no-frills approach to politics and society. The LGBTQ community, with its civil rights constantly under attack, needs more unification and support than ever and Nancy blazes the trail with wit, ferocity, and class.
This podcast is specifically geared toward the young professional dater, for whom dating can get frustrating and lonely. Date/able shows its listeners that there are others facing these same issues.
Better yet, listeners can submit their stories, questions, and experiences (anonymously or publicly) for discussion on the air. If you’re ready for stories that are honest, heartbreaking, and hilarious, don’t miss Date/able.
Despite its title, the I Do Podcast covers much more than marriage. In fact, it offers incredible advice that can be applicable to people seeking or entering new relationships too. It helps its listeners tap into their own issues and consider what might be keeping them from healthy, happy relationships.
Past episodes have included how to deal with rejection in romantic relationships, how to identify whether you have narcissistic habits, and how to address honesty and conflict resolution.
Taking aim at the often uncomfortable discussion of race in the context of dating, Dating While Black offers a realistic look at the challenges faced by many people in their 20s and 30s. Recent episodes of Dating While Black have discussed topics like limiting yourself to a type, how to date effectively and what it means to have (or encounter) emotional baggage. If you need something uplifting and funny to accompany you on your commute, give this podcast a listen.
Speaker, writer, and personal coach Susana Frioni discusses all things driving and halting desire in our daily lives. LOVE SEX DESIRE takes a gentler, more sophisticated approach to topics like intimacy, consent, attraction, and sexual pleasure.
Fironi interviews life coaches, bestselling authors, psychotherapists, and other experts for a well-rounded perspective on dating today. Her ultimate goal is to find out what it really takes to create a thriving partnership — and she invites her listeners along for the journey.
Hosted by comedian, actress and writer Nicole Byer, Why Won’t You Date Me? offers comedic relief for those feeling lonely. Byer invites her exes and past flings to the show, asking them about why the relationship ended. She also invites on guests to talk about their dating life and, without hesitation, asks them whether or not they’d date her. The result is a fresh and hilarious approach to singledom that will have you laughing till the very end.
Psychotherapist and bestselling author Esther Perel hosts Where Should We Begin? an intimate podcast on relationships. Perel interviews real couples about their relationship issues, successes, and heartbreaks throughout the years.
By examining the love lives of a varied range of people, this podcast sheds light on issues considered too taboo or impolite to talk about in everyday life.
Making Gay History sheds light on the most influential gay activists of the current era. Each episode documents the seldom recognized life efforts of courageous and devoted LGBTQ civil rights leaders. While not directly about relationships, this podcast offers endless inspiration.
Betches Media presents the U Up? podcast, hosted by Betches founder Jordana Abraham and comedian Jared Freid. This podcast does a great job of investigating male and female perspectives on modern dating. It sheds light on what it means to use today’s dating apps, how hookups make us feel, and why relationships come to an end.
Although no longer in production, The Heart podcast has years of episodes on life, love, relationships, and becoming your best self. It is one of the foremost podcasts discussing these topics, and we love.
With its artistic and off-beat approach to love, The Heart’s archives are organized by category and listeners can sort through topics like sexual abuse, breaking up, body positivity, and being queer in a Christian family.
May your listening lead you swiftly to love.
By Brianna HoltSpecial Projects Deputy Editor
Since the launch of Tinder in 2012, a range of apps have promised to make online dating even easier, less time-consuming, or a more pleasant experience. Bumble requires women to send the first message and allows men just 24 hours to respond, weeding out men who might project their insecurities on women. Hinge, the app that was designed to be deleted, limits how many people you can choose per day and requires users to answer three ice breakers on their profile upon setting up.
Raya charges approved members $7.99 a month to date and network with people mostly working in the entertainment industry, including artists, musicians, and models, in an exclusive and private setting (screenshotting on the app is forbidden and can lead to removal of your account). Another exclusive app, The League, puts an emphasis on its members’ professionalism, hence its requirement of a LinkedIn account for membership approval.
Although all of these popular dating apps have features that set them apart, each relies on conversations over text for would-be couples to arrange their first meetings. The League plans to change that. This month, it launched League Live, allowing members to speed-date through live video before matching.
Members of the app can choose three back-to-back live video dates, at two minutes each, every Sunday at 9pm local time. The feature solves many of the problems associated with online dating, like misrepresentative photos, catfishing, and delayed responses.
Amanda Bradford, founder and CEO of The League, says that the idea of a “first date,” as we know it, is seeing its final days. “In-person first dates will definitely be replaced by digital dates, as the stakes are lower and with video chatting you can figure out whether or not you click within the first few minutes,” she says. “It saves you time and energy to focus on dates that you are excited about.” According to The League’s website, versus the rest of the app’s users, people who match on League Live are three and a half times more likely to exchange phone numbers and meet offline.
Bradford predicts the genre will get more sophisticated with the arrival of virtual- and augmented-reality features, such as the use of 3D avatars that resemble and sound exactly like users in real life. And she envisions integrations with local bars and restaurants to form curated pools of potential daters both digitally and physically in a matter of minutes. “What we would like to build is the ability to organize meet-ups more automatically based on where people already are, versus trying to organize something in advance,” Bradford says. “This will ensure serendipity can still be achieved in the mobile dating app era and that ‘meet-cutes’ don’t die, they simply grow in number as they become better enabled with smart technology.”
Video as an initial interaction hasn’t always gone smoothly. Chatroulette, a website that pairs random users to chat via webcam, was popular for unsolicited exposure of male genitalia after it launched in 2009. But the chances of receiving unsolicited images might decrease as an app’s selectiveness increases. This is where The League’s history of controversy, as an app labeled as “elitist,” might actually have some benefits.
Not just anyone can get on the app, and there’s allegedly a waitlist of hundreds of people hoping to get approved, creating a more monitored and limited dating pool that might weed out people looking to use the video feature for the wrong reasons.
Bradford, who feels the feature emulates meeting randomly in real life, notes that a protected environment with verified users makes the exchanges authentic and safe, and says The League takes additional steps to vet who is allowed to use the video feature. “We only select users who have been on the platform long enough to have a valid ‘League Score’ data—this score reflects their behavior on the app and when talking to matches,” Bradford says. “Anyone who has been flagged or blocked by a match is not selected for entrance.”
Additionally, users have the ability to flag a user while in the chat, in which case the call is instantly ended and the offending user is banned from future League Live sessions. Depending on the reason for the flag, the user could be removed from the community, permanently.
The League provides users the option to record the video chats if both users opt-in for this safety feature. According to Bradford, no one has requested the recording feature yet, nor has any bad behavior been reported, but if it happened, the app would likely make monitoring required rather than optional, she said.